Imagine that an extremely valuable treasure is in the middle of a massive fire, buried deep within the coals. We watch as a man continues to try and creep closer, dodging the flames and attempting to avoid the heat. His shoes begin to melt; his hair begins to burn and his clothes begin to smolder.
We try to shout to him. To warn him from the painful death he is most assuredly about to experience. But he responds with his own shouts, "Don't worry” He cries, “I won't get burned. If I can just get to the treasure, I'll be okay."
Now imagine a wild, hungry lion roaring loudly from within a nearby cage. It is evident by the temperament of the lion that he is on the verge of starving and will devour anything he can sink his teeth into. We watch as a young man approaches the lion holding a giant slab of meat. We look on in horror as he begins to open the door of the cage. He proceeds to hold out the meat in front of the lion. We cry out, “Get out. Run. He’ll kill you.” But just like our friend in the fire, he responds, "Don't worry. I won't get bit. I'll be okay. I’m just going to feed him once."
There is a cancer that has crept into our Churches and infected more men, women and children than we could possibly imagine.
This cancer is eating the Church alive from the inside. The most terrifying part? Many of us are welcoming this cancer into our lives with open arms.
If we can just get to the treasure with minimal burns than it will be worth it.
If we just feed the lion once...
Ridiculous, you say, no one would take either of those risks.
I wish you were right.
Sadly, the opposite seems to be true when it comes to sexual sin.
We must stop making elaborate excuses for ourselves and for each other.
I've witnessed men lament over their porn habit one moment and then proceed to discuss how excited they are to go home and watch the next episode of Game of Thrones the next. In fact, I used to do this very thing.
I've listened to men express their desire to reach out and get help. They want to get serious about fighting their sexual addiction. But a spouse, friend or pastor tells them they aren’t addicted. "It’s just a sin problem. Keep reading your Bible, going to church and asking for forgiveness. You will be okay. You got this.”
The men end up choosing the easy route. They continue to do what they’ve been doing, fighting their sin in isolation, failing to see any change. They accept the mentality that they will always struggle with sexual sin. They believe that true victory isn’t possible and that obedience to God’s commands cannot be achieved.
For years I had a list of "do's and don'ts" for myself. I thought that, if I followed them, I would be able to control my addiction. I would minimize the hurt that I would cause to those around me. I would minimize the damage my addiction would cause to myself. I was in control.
I won’t get burned.
I’ll just feed him when he’s hungry.
Everything was okay.
Except it wasn't.
In the end...
Cancer kills. Fires burn. Lion's bite.
Sexual sin is no different.
Once you give in and take a bite it will burn you... and if that burn is left untreated... it will consume you.
And once it consumes you…
It will kill you.
This is the reality of sin.
James 1:15 says, “Lust gets pregnant, and has a baby: sin! Sin grows up to adulthood, and becomes a real killer.”
If sexual sin is a killer than the following statistics should have the Church extremely concerned. (Sources listed below)
My personnel experience with sexual sin.
When I was stuck in my pit, I believed every lie ever told in regards to sexual sin.
It was my escape, my comfort, my closest friend that was always there for me. I felt that it never failed me. It was a safety net that provided an escape from the world around me. But in the end, it almost cost me my life and, in all honesty, it should have cost me my marriage.
The perversion of God's amazing and wonderful gift of sex is one of Satan's greatest weapons. Due to the hyper-sexuality of our culture there is an increasing stigma of shame associated with sexual sin within our Churches.
Kids within the church grow up thinking that "Sex is bad" before they have any idea what sex actually is.
Men & women within the church are terrified to come forth and admit they struggle with pornography, immorality or adultery because they fear the amount of shame, humiliation and punishment they will experience from the Church.
We cannot continue to do nothing.
I refuse to remain silent.
As a young child, my innocence was stolen from me. I was robbed of it as I sat upon my father’s lap and he "accidentally" navigated to a website with pornographic images. I was too young to understand what I had just seen but I would never be the same. My curiosity was ignited. My innocence was gone.
That moment, and the abuse that came with it, forever altered who I am.
But I refuse to let that moment define me.
What my earthly father stole from me, my heavenly Father can give back.
The wounds of my heart can be healed. The longings of my soul can be satisfied. I serve a God that spoke this world into existence from nothing. I serve a God who defeated death and rose victorious over the grave.
I serve a God who can provide the power to defeat pornography and sexual sin.
A Call For Action
Church, this a call to arms. This is a rally cry.
A battle has been raging since the Garden of Eden and I fear that we have become far too complacent in the fight.
We must take action. We must stand together as one unified body of believers. With the power granted to us by the resurrection of Jesus Christ, we must decide to fight back against sexual sin.
The failure to do so will continue to result in the destruction of our churches, families, marriages, and the lives of our children.
So what can we do? Where do we go from here?
It’s time to stop believing the lie that complete victory over sexual sin is not possible.
Pornography, or any form of sexual sin, has NO place in the life of a Christian.
The battle is raging.
We are not called to live defeated and ashamed.
It’s time to fight.
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